Keeping goals secret may lead to quicker success
Have you ever been so excited about a new goal or idea that you just wanted to shout it from the mountain tops?
Of course you have. We all have. You may have heard that sharing your goals with others is a great way to stay motivated. You may think that having people rooting for you can help you reach success sooner than slogging along alone.
What if that isn’t true?
As it turns out, there have been studies that show different than we’ve all been told.
When you get excited about something new, a goal or future achievement there are chemical responses in your brain. When you share those goals and ideas with others, something quite remarkable happens. Our brains interpret the excitement of others and the acknowledgment we receive for having an awesome goal. The interpretation of all that celebration of a goal is quite close to the chemical response in the brain of actually achieving a goal.
So, when you are high-fiving friends and family about how excited you are to be committed to a new weight loss, health or business goal, your brain is already telling you that you’re so awesome you don’t even need to follow through.
Keeping your goals to yourself may also have another benefit. When we share with others we open ourselves to their opinions. Depending on what space those people are in you can get a varied and not always supportive response.
There’s not much more frustrating than being super excited about losing 5 pounds in one week or quitting a habit cold turkey, than having a rain cloud come along and tell you all about how unhealthy that is or that they know someone that knew someone that did that and they gained it all back or started back up or… You get the idea. Pouring down negative energy on your fresh start can slow things to a jarring stop.
Walking away with someone’s opinion clinging to your new found resolve can be like wearing wet clothes while running. It’s just not as fun as it was before the rain cloud poured opinions of doubt all over your sparkly new commitment.
Keep secrets. It’s ok. No one has to know that you’re quitting smoking or giving up dairy or going all out health nut and living on kale for a month.
Let it be exciting.
Let it be awesome.
Give yourself the best odds for success and zip those lips. Save the exclamation of joy for the finish line and then bask in the acknowledgement and congratulations when you’ve reached your goal.