As the holiday’s roll to a close, we are often faced with the very real consequences of our actions. Yes, eating is an action and consequence is what ends up on our hips and tummies.
Maybe you moved powerfully through the holiday season, in your tight black dress, making ridiculously conscious choices and mastering the art of avoiding the buffet table. Maybe you did. But, there are some that might not have made those moves as skillfully and for those individuals, there is often that sunken heart feeling.
Feelings are fleeting little things and we don’t ever have to invite them to sit down and have tea. But, we often do. Once that happens, the ripples of their presence are quite funny in their effects.
Failure and Shame often travel together and they are quite rude in how they enter our happy little minds. They don’t knock or tap. They don’t ring the bell and wait patiently. Fear and shame just come barging in on us and usually we are in a vulnerable state. They come right in and pull up a chair. They pour themselves a cup and splash doubt everywhere. Messy grotesque creatures these ones, no manners at all.
It doesn’t have to be that way or any way. When you hear them coming, because, let’s face it, you can hear them coming a mile away, it is up to you to stand at the door. Pull up your too-tight pants and adjust your proud shoulders in your comfy sweater, stand firm in your greatness and know that you can stop them from coming in.
Stand in the doorway of your mind and know that whatever happened, happened. You ate this or didn’t eat that. You were outside of your commitment or you weren’t, whatever it is, you get to say that it’s just what it is. Choose your current self. Choose your current body. Choose that you are human and that you make decisions and go with the crowd and even that you lack integrity and that it’s all ok.
It’s O K.
When those two blundering feelings come crashing in on you, make a choice. Choose you. Choose a new commitment. Choose the space you are in and offer yourself and your feelings a generosity that some forget.
Forgive yourself for any perceived or real folly and move the heck on. You are far too precious to stand there while feeling gobble up your best tea and kale. Don’t even let them over the threshold of your heart.